I think that all of us at some point during the day, week, month or year, take a bit of time to look back at the things that have happened during that time. Are we where we thought we would be? Did we accomplish the goals that we had set out? What got in the way of these goals? How can I learn from that and ensure these "road blocks" don't get in the way again. What things went really well? How can we use these lessons to achieve goals that we set in the future. This happens in many forms. Some through meditation, sometimes we see something that reminds us of an incomplete goal and we try to figure out how we got off track. At any rate these things have one thing in common. We are in the present, thinking of things that happened in the past trying to better ourselves for the future.
I have always had the ability to figure out the "mechanics" if you will of how things work and be able to progress quicker than others in becoming better at doing things, not all things but a lot of things. This apparently is particularly annoying if you are married or spend a great deal of time with someone. The one thing that is hard for the people that get frustrated with you to understand is that it is equally as frustrating to watch someone do the same thing over and over and not be able to get better at it. This frustration can sometimes leads to feelings resentment or antipathy towards the person or actions of a person who just can't seem to figure things out.
Recently I have found that if I am in a situation where I begin to feel like this, I start to look at my own actions and look for the flaws in what I am doing. A type of self reflection, not looking in to the past, staying in the moment. Am I doing that? How can I correct it? Are there other things that I could improve? Can this improvement help with other things? In doing this I have been able to help myself and also become more aware and empathetic of the people around me. Feelings or resentment are replaced with feelings of empathy and understanding allowing me to become more engaged with the people around me. Once any negative feeling has been diminished it allows us to be less critical and able to help the people around us with any hurdles they may have.
I'm not sure if anyone else has experienced this but if you have I urge you to give this a try.
Thursday, 22 February 2018
Sunday, 4 February 2018
Blogging
At the start of the year I was super nervous about doing the blogs. After you release the first one in to the world and realise that it didn't hurt or it didn't kill you, it becomes a lot easier to do. I started to enjoy blogging on Sunday mornings. I was up before everyone else and it gave me some time to reflect not only on the past week but also why I was where I was and doing the things that I was doing. In order to expand, every time I found myself using the same word to describe something I would open up Thesaurus.com and check out all of the synonyms and antonyms for that word to discover new ones. Writing blogs became lots of fun. I also managed to make the leap and posted the links not only on Mighty Bell in our own group but also on my Facebook page. This was also a somewhat scary leap until you start to read some of the comments from people you haven't seen for a while or maybe don't know about the journey that you are currently on.
So if everything was going so well and you were enjoying doing it, why did you stop? That is the question isn't it?
I think that this question gets way more in-depth the more that you think about it and understand it. On the surface, I made a decision and that decision was to not continue blogging. Over the last four months I have been taking some classes at UofA that are part of the MBA program. We have had multiple classes that deal with EQ over IQ and how our EQ affects a number of the decisions that we make. This past week along with an EQ class we also had a decision making class. I would recommend taking one of these if you ever having the chance. We had the opportunity to do our own profile and see what kind of decision we were likely to make. Are you risk adverse? Do you make "snap" decisions or do you do all of the research? It was very interesting. The most powerful part of this class, from my perspective, was the notion that in certain circumstances our brain makes automatic decisions that make no logical sense. What does this have to do with me choosing not to blog? It has nothing to do with the decision itself, but a great deal as to why it was made.
I am in no way trying to excuse poor choices that I have made in the past. It has been my experience however that if you are aware that something is happening then you stand a better chance of identifying when it happens and are then able to make better decisions.
Have a look at the below links, they explain this in a couple of different ways.
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